It’s not who you think you are that holds you back it’s who you think you are not.

Have you ever wondered why some people succeed with Forever Living when others fail? Why does it seem so easy for some people, while others struggle? Forever Living provides you with all the tools to become a success, it’s up to you to decide what your goals are. If it’s simply retailing to earn a few hundred pounds each month, great, a few hours each week spent working on your business should be sufficient. If, however, you want to be the next superstar look to those who have been there and have done it. Firstly, those who are successful work hard at their businesses, true to say that the harder you work, the greater the success. You might catch yourself thinking “Oh, she’s so lucky—she’s confident. If I was that self-confident, I could succeed in business, too.”  The truth is, self-confidence can be learned and cultivated. Here are some tips on ways to improve your self-confidence.

Set your sights on improving your skills and knowledge. If you are advising on the benefits of the products, read up on them and know them. Possessing knowledge creates confidence. Rather than bemoan your perceived lack of knowledge or sigh over what you weren’t born with, get to work. Stretching yourself mentally to learn and even memorising helps make you smarter. Knowing that you know is a confidence booster. Being able to speak knowledgably and confidently about the benefits of the products is a tremendous way to boost confidence. I also believe that understanding what is needed to gain promotions and how you can obtain the various rewards available is a boost to your self-confidence. Preparation is one of the keys to self’-confidence.

Having the expectation that you’ll never make mistakes is unrealistic as is the expectation that everybody you speak to will join the business. I would advise reading “Go for No” to help with understanding why people saying no is not a bad thing. Remember too that you don’t know that you’re getting a no until you ask, if you don’t ask, you’ve given yourself the no.  How often do we make mistakes and then feel surprised and disappointed in ourselves? Rather than dwelling on mistakes, ask yourself “What can I learn from this?” When you know in advance that mistakes are inevitable, and you have the attitude of learning from them, you can move forward with confidence.

Pay close attention to the words you are speaking to yourself and about yourself. If you’re constantly saying that you don’t have confidence, can you guess what happens? Make a commitment to learn a new language of self-talk, and that will spill over into what you say about yourself out loud. Your language matters—both in your head and out of your mouth!

It’s easy to focus on what you want to improve and how you want to do better, then completely bypass what you’re doing right. Spend more time encouraging yourself and noticing your accomplishments. You get more of what you focus on and you want more of them right? Try to acknowledge and celebrate the huge number of things you DO get done!

It has been said that to be insecure is to be selfish. Let’s face it, when we’re feeling insecure it’s because we’re focusing on how “I” feel and what others will think of “me.” Allowing a shortage of confidence to prevent you from sharing yourself with the world is sad. Think about all the people who could be helped by what you have to offer! Sometimes you just must get over yourself and do it anyway.

Ideas are great, but unless you take practical action nothing changes. Here are a couple of ideas to get you started on building your self-confidence:

o Choose a skill that you want to improve and plan to do so. Meet the challenge and learn! For instance, if you want to learn how exactly the C9 and the F.I.T programmes work, do a bit of research but don’t obsess so much on the details that you never get around to getting started selling and recommending. The development of your skill gives you confidence.

o Make a list of five put-down thoughts that you frequently have about yourself. Go through the list and write an opposite thought that supports you and who you want to be. Cross out the put-downs—and vow to replace them each time they come up. Coach yourself like a winning team!

When it comes down to it, much of self-confidence is a choice. We’re making choices about how we speak to ourselves and what we allow ourselves to think about our abilities, appearance and business. Make a vow to yourself that you will change and build your self-confidence for success!

Are you one of those FBOs who attend your local Business presentation and never speak? Once you have discovered the benefits of knowing the products and the various promotion levels, there can be no excuses for not getting up there and sharing that knowledge with others. Remember, you are no different than others, everybody who spoke for the first time was nervous, knowledge of the subject provides confidence, but self-confidence is when you get up there and impart that knowledge.

Confidence comes naturally with success, but success comes only to those who are confident and the only way to gain self-confidence is by doing what you’ve been afraid to do.